I’m not entirely sure what “feeling old” really means—maybe because, depending on who I talk to, some might say I’m not quite there yet. But I know I’m no longer in my 20s, and my body, just like me, has transformed.
These changes are part of the journey, a natural evolution that brings its own beauty. Aging goes far beyond the look of our skin or a clothing size. Believe me, I understand the ups and downs—I'm working through them myself. I have no issue with methods that help us look and feel our best. I’m fully at peace with the adult I am today, but I want to care for myself in ways that help me be my best. It's about embracing ourselves wholeheartedly and loving our bodies for what they are right now. I found that there’s a special grace that comes with this acceptance—a beauty that only deepens with time.
As I navigate my own highs and lows, here’s some food for thought (punn intended!). Cultivating love for your changing body is a lifelong journey, one that’s rooted in self-compassion, self-acceptance, and gratitude. Isn’t it amazing to see your body as a living story—a map of experiences? I can look at mine and recall the childhood scars from a fall in the kitchen, a bike accident before my Bat Mitzvah, the stretch marks left from pregnancy, the popped bicep left from a fall in the grocery store, and the scars left by my recent back surgery to name just a few. With time, as our bodies evolve, we can find joy in embracing these changes, honoring each wrinkle, the curves, and the unique strength that only age can bring.
Here are a few ways to support yourself in this journey:
Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with kindness, and replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations.
Prioritize health: Focus on feeling strong and well rather than achieving a specific appearance.
Surround yourself with positivity: Seek out content that celebrates body positivity and diversity.
Practice gratitude: Be thankful for all the ways your body supports you.
Set realistic goals: Aim for goals that help you feel healthy, strong, and confident.
Listen to your body: Tune into what your body needs and how best to care for it.
Embrace your body: See stretch marks and scars as badges of resilience.
Reflect with love: Stand in front of a mirror and recognize the features you appreciate.
Be mindful of comparisons: Notice how comparisons affect you and limit exposure to negative influences.
As a licensed Clinical Behavioral Therapist and Intuitive Eating Counselor, I’m here to help you integrate these practices into your life. If you're interested in working with me, feel free to reach out at rachel@livehealthynyc.com.